I’ve never one to shy away from transparency in my blogging, but this piece may be especially difficult for me to write.
For quite some time, I have struggled with surrendering my children to the Lord. Years, to be exact. And for years, I have made them, my wife and myself, miserable because I’ve attempted to make things work the way I’ve wanted them to.
I am full cognizant of the senseless aggravation and stress I’ve put my family through, not to mention myself. And, I am keenly aware of the damage I’ve done to my relationships with them with my self-rightetous anger. Certainly, they deserve better from me.
I have finally reached my wits’ end, and I’m tired. It’s time to take my own past advice and lay it at God’s feet and leave it there. I’ve gotten good results from that one. So, what’s taken me so long? If I knew the answer to that one …
As an editor at Charisma Media for the past seven years, I have been privy to a great deal of godly counsel. Whether it be the incredible wisdom of our publisher and my friend and mentor, Dr. Steve Greene, or people whose writing I enjoy regularly like Joyce Meyer or my friends Lee Grady and Pat Schatzline, my soul is blessed daily.
Today, while editing the August issue of Charisma, I read Meyer’s column titled, “Give it God: God’s willing to help you if you’re willing to let go of control.” In it, Meyer talks about her own struggles with relinquishing control of her life–her marriage, her children and her ministry–to God.
For years, she toiled as a mother trying to make her children into what she thought she should be instead of “trusting God and choosing to believe everything would work out well in the end.” Growing up, her daughter, Laura, was “extremely messy and unorganized.” Her son, Daniel, struggled in school and she was convinced that she “would have to care for him for the rest of her life.”
“I spent so much time worrying and trying to change them on my own, and most of my efforts only seemed to make things worse!”
“Cast your burden on the Lord, And He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.”Psalm 55:22
Without a doubt, I can relate to that emotion.
Laura Meyer now works for her mother and organizes her schedule. Daniel Meyer is now the CEO of Joyce Meyer Ministries. In other words, Joyce learned to let go and trust God, and look what happened.
“I look back and realize how much time and effort I wasted worrrying and struggling when God had things under control all along,” Meyer says. “God doesn’t want us to struggle; He wants us to believe. He wants us to relax and enjoy our lives even while we’re waiting for change. “
“For I, the Lord your God, will hold your right hand, Saying to you, ‘Fear not, I will help you.’”Isaiah 41:13
Can anyone of you relate to this? I’d love to hear from you.
So, the time has come. It’s time for me to stop wasting time–and my life–and making my family miserable. I’m still going to be dad to my children, and a husband, but I’m going to be better. Much better, and joy will reign in our household because I know that has been God’s plan all along.
Psalm 55:22 says, “Cast your burden on the Lord, And He shall sustain you;
He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.”
Or how about Isaiah 41:13, which says, “For I, the Lord your God, will hold your right hand, Saying to you, ‘Fear not, I will help you.’”
And then there is Philippians 4:6-7, which reads, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
It’s time to relinquish control. It’s time to start enjoying life as God intended. I ask for your prayers to help me see this through. God bless.