I don’t care what anyone says, Satan knows exactly what he is doing.
When we mention the words “spiritual warfare,” some Christians get upset and point out when it is said that “spiritual warfare” is present that we give to much creedence to the enemy, that he doesn’t have that much influence, and that we’re diminishing God’s power and glory.
To me, that says there is no enemy, that it is man and man only that creates friction between himself and God. Frankly speaking, I believe that gives man too much credit. Sure, it is in our own hearts where we ultimately sin against God. In other words, the devil didn’t make us do it.
However, I do believe that the enemy, Satan, knows exactly what he is doing and he does have a hand in the friction that occurs between ourselves and God; also between ourselves and our loved ones. Because of our frail human nature, the enemy knows exactly which buttons to push with us and at exactly the right time to do it. He knows he can cause, or if you prefer, help to cause, chaos in your life.
In other words, according to John 10:10, “the thief does not come, except to steal and kill and destroy.” Steal, kill and destroy. The thief, or Satan, revels in it.
I know that there are times when an argument within my family can be avoided or can subside before it gets really heated. But, then, my wife or one of my kids will say something that Satan knows will particularly get my goat (or vice versa, I am guilty of such action as well). The enemy knows those particular words will penetrate my heart so much that I will escalate the argument to a place where it doesn’t need to go, to a level that will cause bitterness, resentment and damage to our family. When that happens, Satan has you right where he wants you and he is belly laughing because his evil plan worked to a T.
Am I alone here? Maybe I am, and may it is simply my selfishness. But, I must believe that I’m not the only Christ follower who experiences this. Ours is not the only Christian family Satan preys upon in this manner. Divorce statistics and the breakup of the family unit as a whole are clear evidence.
And it is not because we want this to happen. I don’t believe anyone chooses chaos and revels in hate and bitterness that becomes so severe that divorce becomes an option. No, I choose to believe that most people, especially Christ followers, strive for peace and joy to permeate their homes instead of rancor and vitriole.
A time for transparency here, and I’ve never been afraid of that. I have failed so many times in these types of situations, so much so in the 22 years I have married to Patty that I have lost count. I have allowed the enemy to push those buttons within me that takes arguments to another level. The arguments, thank God, have never produced physical violence, but the voice tone and the language are, to say the least, ugly.
It shames me to think about it, but then that’s exactly what the enemy wants as well–a Christ follower condemning himself. But we all know that, according to Romans 8:1, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” The enemy wants to keep us wrapped up in that bondage, but as believers, we know that “in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us” (Romans 8:37).
So, we can we do when chaos and tension begin to arise within us and our homes? What can we do to fight the enemy? Yes, you can put on the whole armor of God, as Paul tells us in Ephesians 6, “that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.” In layman’s terms, what I have learned to do, and I’m still fairly new at it, is to recognize the escalation point of the argument and cry out to Jesus to cut it off immediately. I am desperately learning through the Holy Spirit’s prompting and God’s Word to put down the insurrection in my heart before it ignites into a mass explosion that produces irreversible damage to the ones I love.
We must recognize in that moment what Satan’s ultimate plan is, which is to cause division in your family. We must recognize that he revels in bitterness and resentment that leads to the destruction of your marriage covenant and to the bond with your children.
We might have the ulimate victory in Jesus, but the enemy knows exactly what he is doing and what he is capable of. Don’t let him have the satisfaction. You can stop him dead in his tracks.