Is the Church Addressing Homosexuality All Wrong?

Let us love homosexuals, not thump them with the Bible. (Getty Images)

Breaking my own rules about addressing this, but it’s what I believe God wanted me to say.

Shawn A. Akers

With the words of this article you, as a believer, may think I am totally cracked. You might even call me a heretic. I really don’t even like writing about these issues anymore because of God’s conviction.

But this is different. Please, hear me out.

There are good reasons why Mike Pompeo has yet to be confirmed by senators as the U.S. Secretary of State. There are good reasons why the state legislature of California is in the process of passing a bill with the aim of banning Christian books and resources which address issues of homosexuality and gender identity.

And, there are good reasons why the LGBT community’s attitude is to, and pardon my expression, “damn the torpedoes” when it comes to educating our children with their agenda.

Did you ever stop to think that the church is totally responsible for the anger of these people? And did you ever stop to think that these lawmakers may be pressing these issues simply out of spite against the pomposity of some and the naivete of perhaps “well-intentioned” but misguided believers? Think about it.

Make no mistake about it. The Bible is very clear in its views on homosexuality, and I am very much in support of what it says, Old Testament and New Testament. It’s all there in black and white, and it is my faith that the Bible is both inerrant and infallible.

God tells us in Ezekiel 3:18-21, “If I warn the wicked, saying, ‘You are under penalty of death,’ but you fail to deliver the warning, they will die in their sins. And I will hold you responsible for their deaths. If you warn them and they refuse to repent and keep on sinning, they will die in their sins. But you will have saved yourself because you obeyed me. If righteous people turn away from their righteous behavior and ignore the obstacles I put in their way, they will die. And if you do not warn them, they will die in their sins. None of their righteous acts will be remembered, and I will hold you responsible for their deaths. But if you warn righteous people not to sin and they listen to you, they will live, and you will have saved yourself, too.”

What that tells me is that we must “warn” people of their sin—we must tell them the truth of God’s Word. Pastor and author Anthony Michael of York, Pennsylvania, recently said, “If you never get to the truth you’re not loving people at all, because the most unloving thing you could do to somebody is withhold the truth from them.”

The preacher said Christians have sometimes had a lack of compassion and love for people who need to hear the truth, especially during preceding decades in which Christians held more firmly to the reins of cultural power. But there is a different way to do it.

Because of what has been preached from our pulpits live and on television, and the dialogue that has been spouted on all types of social media, most are already well aware that homosexuality is a sin. These people have been figuratively beaten over the head with this rhetoric, and many times, in a very hateful manner.

Is this the way God really wants it? Do we actually believe that by continuing to inundate them with Scriptures like Deuteronomy 22:5, Leviticus 18:22, Leviticus 20:13, 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, Romans 1:26-27, Jude 1:7, 1 Timothy 1:10 and Mark 10:69 that we are actually going to change their minds and their behavior? Not likely.

If they haven’t heard these Scriptures before, read them to them.

If we continue along the path we’ve taken, it will continue to make it worse and widen the gap between not only us and them but them and God. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to stand before God one day and have him tell me that I was the reason why a certain person didn’t come to salvation because of my condescending and condemning attitude.

So, what do I propose? Simply this: Since most already know what the Bible says about homosexuality and everything associated with, I would suggest that when you are speaking with any certain person, tell them exactly that. “I know you know what the Bible says about it. I’m not going thump you over the head with my Bible and tell you what I think of your lifestyle. I am not your judge and jury; only God holds that position. I’m only instructed to plant a seed.”

“But is this the way God really wants it? Do we actually believe that by continuing to inundate them with Scriptures like Deuteronomy 22:5, Leviticus 18:22, Leviticus 20:13, 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, Romans 1:26-27, Jude 1:7, 1 Timothy 1:10 and Mark 10:69 that we are actually going to change their minds and their behavior? Not likely.”

“I compel you to contemplate what God’s Word says about this and search your heart about it. Pray about it if you feel prompted to do so. Like the rest of us, the decisions you make for your life are between you and God and between you and God only. I have presented to you what I believe is the truth. I will pray for you and I will here for you if you need to talk about anything. No matter what, I’m here for you.”

To those who are angry about the Supreme Court’s decision in 2016 to legalize same-sex marriage, my advice is to let it go. Same-sex marriage is the law of the land now. Homosexuals are American citizens, too, and they deserve the same rights as every other American. That should NEVER have been a question.

But let me be clear: I am NOT condoning or approving of the homosexual lifestyle or same-sex marriage. I am very much opposed to it. God gave man his own will, and God will not override it.

The hearts of many are simply too far from God to submit to His will. And that includes the hearts of heterosexuals who have fallen so deep into sin—sin that is no less abominable in God’s eyes—that they think they are more righteous than they are.

But God is the God of the impossible and only through the Holy Spirit will men’s hearts and minds be transformed. It is up to as the church to pray fervently EVERY day for that transformation. That is, if members of the church care even the least bit about this instead of simply brushing it aside.

Please let know what you think of this article. My heart has changed radically in recent years, and I believe for the better. Let me know, in a respectful way, if you have different opinions.

Remember to do something today to rise up higher in your kingdom calling.

  • “You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eyes, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye” (Matt. 5:7)
  • “But the goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith” (1 Timothy 1:5)
  • “Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil; cling to what is good” (Rom. 12:9)

Step Out of the Boat is a ministry created by Charisma Media Content Development Editor Shawn A. Akers and dedicated to help Christ followers to become spiritual champions and come to a more intimate relationship with Jesus. With its articles, podcasts and other forms of media, Step Out of the Boat encourages Christ followers to daily reach to a higher level in their calling. Shawn is a 35-year veteran sportswriter, a published poet and he published a story about Dale Earnhardt in NASCAR Chicken Soup for the Soul. You can read his blog here. You can also listen to his podcasts, the Javelin Sports Show, on the Charisma Podcast Network

9 thoughts on “Is the Church Addressing Homosexuality All Wrong?”

  1. Shawn you covered a lot of territory here, but there are a couple of points I would like to make in response. First you said this….

    “But is this the way God really wants it? Do we actually believe that by continuing to inundate them with Scriptures…”

    Yes that is exactly the way God wants it. The Word of God is a sword that will pierce the darkest hearts of non-believers… and in that moment, which could take seconds or years a transformation will begin as they begin to open up to the Gospel. You CANNOT effectively present the loving message of the Gospel without FIRST presenting the LAW in God’s Word. Why would anyone need a savior, if they believe their lifestyle is normal and healthy? It is not for us to put away the Word of God, but to ARM ourselves with it… and let the Holy Spirit of God do the rest.

    Second, you say…

    “To those who are angry about the Supreme Court’s decision in 2016 to legalize same-sex marriage, my advice is to let it go. Same-sex marriage is the law of the land now. Homosexuals are American citizens, too, and they deserve the same rights as every other American. That should NEVER have been a question.”

    This is the same argument the Left used… but why would a follower of Christ hold that position? Marriage is not up to man, it is up to God and according to God a Marriage is between one man and one woman. Period. So why would you state… it should never have been a question? A gay man had the same right to marry as I did… which is to marry a woman of his choosing. Those rights are the exact same. When they complained about wanting healthcare and benefits they were offered Civil Unions with the exact same benefits. It wasn’t enough. They wanted to hijack another of God’s covenants. And they did because Christians didn’t fight.

    Let me give you a glimpse of the future, that will be here before you know it.

    A grown man and his grown daughter will soon fight for the legal right to marry. They will eventually win, because public opinion will change on the subject of incest, after all they are two loving consenting adults, there are no victims.

    In the span of 10 years, that lunacy will be called normal, and once again we will be labeled bigots for speaking out against it.

    We now have Transgenders, a microscopic portion of our population making policy changes across the country that are insane. We now have Girls forcing the Boy Scouts to let them in their ranks… and openly gay scout leaders running the show.

    There is absolutely no end in sight to the levels of depravity our country will sink to, and the last thing we need to do as Christians, is become quiet on the issues and sit back doing nothing. We need to fight for what is right in God’s eyes, we need to stand on the Word of God and NOT LET ANYONE shut our mouths.

    So yes, we differ just a little on our opinions 🙂

    Stay Strong & Stand Tall


    1. Keith, thank you so much for responding, and responding in kind. I really appreciate that.

      First of all, their lifestyle isn’t normal and healthy. The Word of God makes that completely clear. They do need a savior, and if they haven’t heard what the Word of God says about it, then we gently need to tell them. Most, I believe, have heard it and are sick of it because they’ve heard it hundreds of times. It has not penetrated their hearts because they need people praying for them to help them. Yes, the Word of God can penetrate their hearts, but they have to want that to happen. God is the only one that can open the door for that to happen.

      As I said in my post, I certainly am not an advocated of the homosexual lifestyle nor do I condone it. I believe that the word of God is 100 percent infallible and inerrant, and of course the word says that homosexuality is a sin. But again, the thing is, most of them already know how we feel about it. If we continue to hit them over the head about it, then it’s not going to do any good. It’s only going to drive a bigger wedge between us to where they won’t even listen to what we have to say, and they also will drift further and further from God because they think that we are hateful for driving the point home. As American citizens, they, as we do, have the right to do whatever they want and say what they want. That’s why God gave them their own will. We have that right, too, but the Holy Spirit convicts us not to call people names or not to degrade them on social media for their lifestyle. We certainly know that homosexuality is wrong. But then so is adultery, cheating on your taxes, lying, etc. The Holy Spirit has convicted us. As I said, we certainly need to present the Word of God to them once if they have not heard it, but if they have heard it and we have told them, then consider that a seed that has been planted in them. We must allow the Holy Spirit to water that seed. God is all knowing and all powerful, and I believe He respects the fact that we have planted that seed. If we try to water it over and over again, the ground will get so saturated that nothing ever good will come out of it. Yes, we must continue to stand and fight for what is right and the truth of the Word of God. But as I stated too, I don’t want to stand before God and have him tell me that a certain person did not come to the saving knowledge of Jesus Christ because I tried to force my will upon them. I am a staunch pro-life advocate and will continue for the rights of unborn children, protesting to keep them from being murdered. But with same-sex marriage, it’s different. Those people who enter in gay marriage pursued this as the law of the land because “Christians” were so adamantly opposed to it. Many of them did it out of spite, and others simply wanted the same rights as other citizens. Unless we are on our knees praying for them (instead of holding signs that opposed them), the Holy Spirit will NEVER convict them of their lifestyle. He will not impose His will on them unless we bombard heaven with prayer for them. Again, it’s up to us to plant the seed and let the Holy Spirit water it and convict their hearts and minds. As far as men marrying their daughter, or farm animals, or inanimate objects, or whatever they chose, it’s the same premise. There is nothing that we as men can do about it except pray or vote the right people into office or run for office ourselves to make sure that type of perversion doesn’t happen.

      I am the last person to sit back and advocate being quiet about those issues, for sure. We shouldn’t let anyone shut our mouths, as you say, because I myself am so completely fed up with the liberal garbage that is being spread around this country. I will not, however, try to do God’s job. Whenever He prompts me to say what He wants me to say or do what He wants me to do, I will certainly do it.

      But again, as I say, the relationship is ultimately between that person and God. Our wonderful God is NEVER late, and it is his that will bring that person to Him (perhaps through someone else) in His time. If their hearts are so hard that they don’t want to listen, then we must pray for miracles to happen.

      Again, thank you so much, Keith for your thoughtful response. It’s great banter and I appreciate your heart. All of God’s blessings!


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      1. Thank you for the response Shawn, it seems in the comments I have discovered we are much closer to agreement than from your original post. There is very little if anything in your response I disagree with. In the original post you seemed apathetic or almost throwing up your hands. At least that was my perception.

        I wrote an article some time back about how we should respond to homosexuality, you may or may not agree with it, but it certainly explains my view clearly.

        Stay Strong & Stand Tall



      2. I understand how you might have perceived that, probably wasn’t as clear as I should have been. I don’t think I was in the second one, either. It’s not that I’m apathetic or throwing up my hands, it’s just that I’m following the words of John 10:11-15 where Jesus sends his apostles out into the world: “Whatever town or village you enter, search there for some worthy person and stay at their house until you leave. As you enter the home, give it your greeting. If the home is deserving, let your peace rest on it; if it is not, let your peace return to you. If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet. 15 Truly I tell you, it will be more bearable for Sodom and Gomorrah on the day of judgment than for that town.”

        If they won’t welcome you or heed to your words, depart from them and shake off the dust of your feet. Some simply will not hear of it. And that’s the real tragedy. Their hearts are so hard that they can’t even be reached. My spirit grieves for them. But again, God will deal with them in due time, whether it’s through somebody else in this life or the hereafter. It’s their choice. I’ll give yours a good read. I appreciate you, brother!

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  2. This is something I think about, stress about, and simply have fear over for my kids growing up in this mess. You have clearly thought this over, went to the Word, and prayed. This helped me more than I can ever explain. You pulled together what I’ve been struggling to.


    1. I am so, so happy that I could help, Stacy. I like to believe that my words are Holy Spirit inspired because I know that it can’t come from me. I appreciate your kind words and I pray for you and your children. Keep up the good work with your blog. All of God’s blessings to you!

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    2. And remember, Stacy, God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and love and a sound mind. We need not fear anything because if God be for us, who can stand against us?

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